The Journey to Becoming Starts With One Sacred Decision

What the Butterfly Can Teach You About Timing, Alignment, and Knowing When to Push Through

I’ve been in seasons where I found myself tempted to abandon something I was building. The excitement had faded, the results slowed down, and doubt started whispering, Maybe this isn’t working… maybe I should start over.

But every time I come close to quitting, something inside me reminds me that transformation doesn't always feel magical. Sometimes, it feels like suffocation right before the breakthrough. Like a butterfly pushing against the walls of its chrysalis, struggling for its first breath of freedom.

And before the butterfly ever flaps its wings, it makes a decision — to become.

Becoming a Butterfly Begins With a Decision

You have to decide. Not just to try something new. But to truly become something new.

The butterfly begins as an egg, and in the real world, that egg might look like a new idea, a domain name, a spark of clarity, or the quiet knowing that your life has outgrown its current shape.

But not all eggs are viable.

You’ll know yours is viable within the first 5–10 days. Maybe you get unexpected feedback, clicks, synchronicities, or momentum. It’s a subtle nudge from the universe that says, Yes, keep going.

If you’ve been feeding a dream for weeks, months, or even years with no pulse, it might not ever grow. There is no shame in letting go of what was never meant to be.

But if you feel something stirring — something small but undeniable — then you may have a viable egg. That’s where the real journey begins.

Stage One: The Viable Egg (Days 1–10)

Keyword: Confirmation

This stage is all about feedback.

  • You’ve made the decision to begin
  • You’ve planted the seed, claimed the domain, written the plan, or opened the page
  • Now you watch: Does life respond?

If it’s viable, it will show early signs of life. That doesn’t mean massive success. But you will see alignment. A message arrives. A stranger reaches out. A click. A spark. A whisper of YES.

If the egg stays silent, it may not be the season. Or it may not be your butterfly.

Stage Two: The Caterpillar (Days 10–24)

Keyword: Growth

Now you’re moving. Learning, creating, stretching. This is where most people stop because growth doesn’t look glamorous — it looks like work.

  • You're consuming, building, tweaking
  • You're testing, failing, adjusting
  • You might feel excited... or exhausted

But here’s the part most people miss:

Not every viable egg becomes a butterfly you actually want.

You can grow something successfully and still feel off. Out of sync. Like it’s working, but it’s not you.

This is your check-in point.

Ask yourself:

  • If this keeps growing, would I want the life it leads to?
  • Am I aligned with the direction this dream is taking me?
  • Does this growth feel like a homecoming, or a detour?

Sometimes the caterpillar grows, but never enters the chrysalis. Because deep down, we know we don’t actually want what we’re building.

Not all failures are failures. Some are divine redirections.

This stage is not just about discipline — it’s about discernment.

Stage Three: The Chrysalis (Days 24–38)

Keyword: Transformation

This is the quiet. The internal work. The restructuring.

From the outside, it may look like you’ve gone silent. But on the inside, your identity is shifting. You are no longer who you were, and not quite who you’re becoming.

This is when people start to panic.

  • They don’t see “results”
  • They wonder if they’ve wasted their time
  • They want to start something new

But don’t. Don’t start over. Push through.

You are being reorganized from the inside out. This is sacred. This is necessary.

Stage Four: The Push (Days 38–42)

Keyword: Emergence

Breaking out of the chrysalis is not easy — and it’s not supposed to be.

The butterfly needs the resistance to build the strength to fly. If someone tries to help it, it will die.

This stage feels like:

  • Sudden pressure
  • Old doubts returning
  • Unexpected delays
  • Emotional fatigue

But the truth is… you’re almost there.

Keep going. Trust that every push is shaping your wings.

Not Everyone Is Ready to Become

And that’s okay.

Some people are not in a butterfly season. They’re still gestating a dream that takes longer — like a baby, not a butterfly.

You must use discernment.

Ask:

  • Is this truly a butterfly moment, or am I forcing a transformation I’m not ready for?
  • Have I already done the years of groundwork, healing, and preparation?
  • Am I sensing a shift now because it’s time, or because I’m uncomfortable?

Butterfly seasons are brief but intense. They require clarity, timing, and a willingness to let go of everything that no longer fits.

If you're feeling the stir, the wings ready to stretch, the life you can't unsee... then you know what time it is.

Pause for a Moment and Ask Yourself: Have I truly decided to become the version of myself I keep envisioning, or am I still hesitating at the edge of transformation?

Click HERE to Read Finding Peace in Trusting the Process: What the Butterfly Teaches Us About Real Growth

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