From Logic to Alignment: Reclaiming the Wisdom of How You Feel

We live in a world that worships logic. From the moment we're old enough to understand rules, we're taught to measure our decisions against what makes sense on paper, what looks right to others, and what will be perceived as responsible or mature. We’re praised for being practical. Rewarded for being rational. Told to be smart and think things through.

But hardly anyone tells us to feel things through.

And so it begins early. The slow silencing of our internal wisdom. A child says, “I don’t like going to that place, it makes me feel uncomfortable,” and an adult replies, “You’re going anyway, stop being dramatic.” A teenager says, “School makes me feel anxious,” and they’re told, “Just push through, life is hard.” An adult says, “This job is draining me,” and hears, “Well, at least you have a job.” The pattern repeats itself again and again until, over time, we forget how to trust what our feelings are trying to show us.

But here's the truth: feelings are not the enemy of logic, they're the missing half of wisdom. They are not impulsive reactions, they are internal guidance systems pointing us toward or away from something. And the longer we ignore them, the deeper our misalignment becomes.

Think about how many people stay in relationships that don’t feel good, simply because those relationships look good. They have the house. The shared bank account. The vacation photos. They go to dinner with other couples and post smiling selfies, but when they get home, they feel disconnected, resentful, and unseen. And instead of asking why they feel so uncomfortable in the relationship, they override those feelings with logic.

“Well, we have kids.”
“We’ve already invested so much time.”
“I don’t want to start over.”
“This is just what marriage is.”

They stay. Not because it feels right, but because it looks right.

Now apply this same lens to careers. How many people drag themselves out of bed every morning to go to jobs that leave them physically, mentally, and emotionally depleted? They come home exhausted, eat something quick, numb out in front of a screen, and repeat the same routine tomorrow. And yet, when you ask them why they stay, the answer is almost always logical.

“It pays the bills.”
“It has good benefits.”
“I don’t want to seem ungrateful.”
“I’ve been here too long to leave now.”

We are taught that this is what responsible adults do. We are taught to ignore the quiet dread in our chest, the heaviness in our spirit, and the voice that keeps whispering, this is not it. And we call this sacrifice. We call this maturity. But what if it’s just fear in disguise?

What if living your life by logic alone is actually the most irresponsible thing you can do?

Your body knows when something is off. So does your spirit. The headaches. The irritability. The anxiety. The low-level depression that creeps in even when everything around you seems fine. That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom. That’s your body begging you to stop overriding its messages.

And this doesn’t just apply to relationships or careers. It applies to health too. You know when something isn’t working. When your energy is off. When your digestion is off. When the prescriptions are piling up but your symptoms aren’t going away. But because we’ve been conditioned to outsource authority, we keep going back to the same people, the same routines, the same appointments, ignoring how we actually feel in favor of what we’re supposed to do.

That’s not alignment. That’s disconnection.

To feel your way into an aligned life, you have to relearn the language of your emotions. You have to unlearn the belief that logic is always superior to feeling. You have to give yourself permission to say, this doesn’t feel right, even when you can’t explain why.

It starts with little things. Paying attention to how your body reacts when someone walks in the room. Noticing the energy in your chest when you say yes to something you didn’t want to do. Feeling your stomach twist when you're about to make a decision that isn’t rooted in truth. And then honoring that feeling instead of brushing it off.

This isn’t about impulsivity. This is about integrity. And there is nothing more responsible than living a life that is true to who you are — a life that feels like peace when you lay your head down at night.

If you’re a parent, this is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children. Teach them to notice how they feel. To trust their instincts. To speak up when something doesn’t feel right. Let their feelings be valid even when they don’t make sense to you. Because when you teach a child to honor their feelings, you teach them to trust themselves. And when a child grows up trusting themselves, they’re far less likely to stay in places, roles, relationships, or situations that violate their peace.

This is the shift — from logic to alignment. From should to soul. From looking right to feeling whole.

Pause for a Moment and Ask Yourself: What have I been forcing myself to keep doing because it makes sense, even though it doesn’t feel right anymore?